when you are a dyke you will probably be someone’s first girl fuck and when you are trans you will probably be someone’s first trans fuck and when you are a trans dyke? you are responsible for showing someone what it is like not just to fuck girls but to fuck trans women and it is a lot of…
True goddamn life.
“boys will be bo-“
*punches you in the face*
bOYS WILL BE HELD RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS LIKE EVERYONE ELSE
Boys will be bo-
So how do you think you've changed since high school?
Well I became aware of oppressive power structures and how we are complicit in them and now seek to dismantle them.
I also think I got hotter.
Apparently today is the trans day of visibility. I see a lot of people sharing statistics about how likely trans people (“particularly trans women of color,” which often is deployed as the catch-all intersectionality phrase) are more likely to commit suicide, be homeless, live in poverty, live with HIV/AIDS, etc. All of these things are true, and holding space for that is important.
I also wish today could be less about acknowledging how bad things are, and more about how to actively make it better. We need to honor our leaders and elders, provide direct assistance to trans people, explicitly challenge cissexism (and intersecting forces that disproportionately affect trans people, e.g. racism, ableism, classism), notice when and why trans women are excluded (“usually” and “because transmisogyny” for those keeping score). Framing “trans visibility” in terms of “here are statistics about how hard it is to be trans” robs us of our humanity and allows us to pass the blame to society.
If you lament the lack of trans women in your community, but never make the effort to form friendships with trans women, you can’t just blame it on statistics and -isms.
Apparently a notarized court ordered gender change and a notarized letter from your surgeon are not enough to change your gender marker at the California DMV.
There always seems to be an abundance of people in need of links as to why the asterisk after trans is transmisogynistic or just flat out unnecessary so I browsed Google for a while and found some good explanations about why we should stop using the asterisk.
- probably the most comprehensive post with a large amount of reasons as to why the asterisk is transmisogynistic and how many people abuse its usage
- the post above but with some insightful commentary and more info
- shorter explanation about the transmisogyny behind the asterisk from a trans woman
- the asterisk was used originally by truscum to ‘tolerate’ non-binary identities
- conversation between trans women and other dmab trans people about the asterisk (not to be added on to if you aren’t a dmab trans person)
If you have other links, add them! If you think there’s something wrong with one of the links I provided, let me know! Save this list and use it to explain to people why we should ditch the asterisk.